The Secure Perspective

Tag: attachment

  • How Insecure Attachment Can Keep Us Drawn to the Wrong People

    How Insecure Attachment Can Keep Us Drawn to the Wrong People

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    I think a lot of people have heard the saying “you attract the type of love you think you deserve“. Personally, I do believe to an extent that there are elements of truth to this, as our self-image, boundaries, and past experiences can shape how we approach dating, what we choose to tolerate, and how…

  • The Psychology of Putting People on Pedestals

    The Psychology of Putting People on Pedestals

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    It’s been a few weeks since my last blog post! Over the past few weeks, I’ve been swamped writing up my master’s dissertation while also trying to make the most of the start of summer! Alongside uni, I’ve found myself reflecting more on topics like boundaries, self-image, and how we make sense of relationships with…

  • The Psychology of Situationships

    The Psychology of Situationships

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    Following on from my recent posts on attachment, people pleasing, and modern dating psychology, I wanted to explore a topic that has become increasingly common in contemporary dating: situationships. A situationship is typically a romantic or emotionally intimate connection that exists somewhere between friendship and a committed relationship. While there may be affection, intimacy, and…

  • Attachment Styles Explained: The Psychology Behind Your Relationships

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    Why do some relationships feel calm, supportive, and secure, while others feel intense, confusing, or emotionally exhausting? It’s easy to assume that many of these experiences come down to compatibility or bad luck in dating (possibly, haha!). However, psychology suggests something deeper may be at play. Our patterns in relationships are often shaped by what…

  • Why Do Good People Sometimes Stay In Bad Relationships

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    You’re kind, confident, and caring – yet somehow you keep finding yourself in relationships that leave you anxious, maybe at times withdrawn, or even questioning your worth. It’s only natural to feel destabilised in these types of dynamics. Many good people stay in unhealthy relationships longer than they should, and the reasons are surprisingly human.…